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The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There Are No Soul Mates

Research shows that practically every dimension of life happiness is influenced by the quality of one's marriage, while divorce is the second most stressful life event one can ever experience.

A New Prescription for Depression: Join a Team and Get Sweaty

Research shows exercise can ease things like panic attacks or mood and sleep disorders, and a recent study in the journal Lancet Psychiatry found that popular team sports may have a slight edge over the other forms of physical activity.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

The good news is that it doesn't matter if we find we have married the wrong person. We mustn't abandon him or her, only the founding Romantic idea upon which the Western understanding of marriage has been based the last 250 years: that a perfect being exists who can meet all our needs and satisfy our every yearning.

Stress Can Impact Your Memory Even If You're Just Thinking About It, According To A New Study

Stress is an inevitable part of life, and something we all grapple with on a regular basis. And while some stress can be beneficial for performance and motivation at times, chronic and negative stress takes some skill to manage in order to avoid the negative health outcomes that come with it.

Happier Parents Do These 10 Things

Raising children shouldn't rob us of joy. Here's how one mother restored her sense of contentment.

Fortnite, Boys, and Self-Control

What can research tell us about the latest videogame craze? If you are a parent of a child or teen, and your kid wants to join the lemmings, what should you do?

To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence, Develop These 10 Qualities

There are many different kinds of intelligence, and its our job to discover what they are and how to integrate them into our lives.

How I Used Art to Get Through Trauma

My encounter with a gunman on my evening commute led to nightmares and depression. Art helped me recover from post-traumatic stress, and it might help you, too.

How to Build Resilience in Midlife

While resilience is an essential skill for healthy childhood development, science shows that adults also can take steps to boost resilience in middle age, which is often the time we need it most. Midlife can bring all kinds of stressors, including divorce, the death of a parent, career setbacks and retirement worries, yet many of us don't build the coping skills we need to meet those challenges.

Break the Cycle of Stress and Distraction by Using Your Emotional Intelligence

Being able to focus helps us succeed. Whether it's focusing inward and attuning ourselves to our intuitions and values or outward and navigating the world around us, honing our attention is a valuable asset. All too often though, our focus and attention get hijacked, leaving us feeling frazzled, forgetful, and unable to concentrate.

Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings

One of our deepest needs as humans is to feel understood, and true understanding is not possible without empathy. As psychologist Carl Rogers puts it, "When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!"

Creating a New Mission Statement

Forget the New Year's resolution. This year, try creating a personal mission statement instead.

Want to be a great parent? Let your children be bored.

From books, arts and sports classes to iPads and televisions, many parents do everything in their power to entertain and educate their children. But what would happen if children were just left to be bored from time to time? How would it affect their development?

What Does Mindfulness Meditation Do to Your Brain?

More people than ever are doing some form of this stress-busting meditation, and researchers are discovering it has some quite extraordinary effects on the brains of those who do it regularly.

The Power of Play

Children play. Nobody has to tell them to make time for it. But as adults, we can forget what play is, how vital it is, and even how FUN it is!

Pets Help People Manage the Pain of Serious Mental Illness

When people with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder were asked who or what helped them manage the condition, many said it was pets that helped the most.

Masters of Love

Science says lasting relationships come down to -- you guessed it -- kindness and generosity.

Harvard psychologists have been studying what it takes to raise 'good' kids .

Here are 6 tips. Help unlock your child's best self with a few tried-and-true strategies.

Greater Self-Acceptance Improves Emotional Well Being

Self-acceptance is defined as "an individual's acceptance of all his/her attributes, positive or negative." It includes body acceptance, self-protection from negative criticism, and believing in one's capacities.

Mindfulness Can Literally Change Your Brain
The business world is abuzz with mindfulness. But perhaps you haven't heard that the hype is backed up by hard science.

Distinguishing Defiance from Anxiety: What to Do With a Child Who Worries
Was my little boy panicking or simply behaving badly? I posed this question to a doctor ...

5 Rituals That Will Help Your Brain Stay Young
Lucky for us, advanced technologies have enabled researchers to understand how the brain works, what it responds to, and even how to retrain it.

Parenting in the Age of Awfulness
Children are immersed in a culture that stokes disrespect. Here's how to instill some civility.

Gratitude is Good for the Soul, and Helps the Heart Too
Research shows that feeling grateful doesn't just make you feel good. It also helps - literally helps - the heart.

Screentime Is Making Kids Moody, Crazy and Lazy
Children or teens who are "revved up" and prone to rages or - alternatively - who are depressed and apathetic have become disturbingly commonplace.

To Age Well, Change How You Feel About Aging
Scientists are discovering something very peculiar about aging. How we feel about getting old matters. A lot.

6 Signs You Were Raised By a Narcissist
"While narcissists come in all varieties and their symptoms vary across a spectrum, there are a few ways for adult children to tell they may have been raised by a narcissist," explains therapist Wendy Behary, founder of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and author of the book Disarming the Narcissist.

How to Turn a Bad Day Around
How can you change your mood when you've started your day off on the wrong foot? How do you stop annoyances from dragging you down and killing your productivity?

7 Easy Practices to Feel Better About Your Life
Our thoughts condition the power of our emotions.

Rising Strong: Brené Brown on the Physics of Vulnerabiity and What Resilient People Have in Common
The process of regaining our emotional footing in the midst of struggle is where our courage is tested and our values are forged. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it's the process that teaches us the most about who we are.

How To Tell Your Own Life Story
According to the fascinating field of "narrative psychology," the stories that we tell about ourselves are the key to our well-being.

Mindfulness: Do You Have the Courage to Surrender?
Mindful surrender isn't giving up; it's opening up. And opening up takes guts.

9 Things Mentally Strong People Do Every Day
Genetics, personality, and life experiences all play a role in your mental strength.

Unpacking the Science: How Playing Music Changes the Learning Brain
Music neuroscience, which draws on cognitive science, music education and neuroscience, can help answer basic questions about the workings of the human brain.

The Writing Assignment That Changes Lives
Recently, researchers have been getting more and more interested in the role that mental motivation plays in academic achievement.

What's Lost as Handwriting Fades
Psychologists and neuroscientists say it is far too soon to declare handwriting a relic of the past. New evidence suggests that the links between handwriting and broader educational development run deep.

The Voice of Reason
Everyone engages in self-talk, but much depends on the way we do it.  Scientists now find that the right words can free us from our fears and make us as wise about ourselves as we often are about others.

The Moral Bucket List
About once a month I run across a person who radiates an inner light.  These people can be in any walk of life.  They seem deeply good.

How Children Succeed
Psychologists and neuroscientists have learned a lot in the past few decades about non-cognitive skills, like persistence, self-control, curiosity, conscientiousness, grit and self-confidence -- where these skills come from and how they're developed -- leading to the conclusion that these skills are more crucial than sheer brainpower in determining success.

The Power of 'Good Enough'
How settling can make people happier and more satisfied than gunning for "the best."

5 Surprising Ways Mindfulness Can Change You
Personality scientists are forging new insights about how mindfulness affects human motivation and behavior, alongside health and wellbeing.

Can Family Secrets Make You Sick?
This growing body of research indicates that, right now, the health of millions of children is being shaped by abuse and neglect.

Why do so many middle-aged men feel so lost?
Caught between baby-boomers and Generation Y, today's middle-aged men increasingly see themselves as lost souls.

What We Can Learn From the Science of Stress
Popular Science Magazine took a closer look at the science behind worrying.

How Mindfulness Changes the Brain
There's some research behind all that hype.

Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married
A new Economics paper has some old fashioned advice ....

How to Find a Best Friend
Parents and psychologists are discussing a subtle concern: Children today face a lot of obstacles to having a best friend.

5 Tips For Becoming a Better Listener
How well are you listening?

What Childhood Piano Lessons Did to You
Science just discovered something amazing about what childhood piano lessons did to you.

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